If you’ve found yourself in the friendzone, you have my sincerest condolences. I’m sorry for your current situation, but I’m here to let you know that all is not lost. Yes, it may seem hopeless. It may seem like any chance of having a relationship with this person died when they said: “You’re like a brother to me”, but that’s not true.
You still have a chance! Here’s how to yank yourself out of the friendzone and into the light of a potential relationship.
1. Stop acting like a friend
The reason you’re in the friendzone is because you’re acting like a friend instead of a fuck pal. You’re clearly not coming across as interested. So, stop acting like you’re not. A lot of friendzoning happens because you don’t act like a potential boyfriend in the first place.
While it may feel uncomfortable, take a step back. Slowly withdraw from your friend position. Yes, this might feel counterproductive, drifting away. But it’s not!
If you stop being a shoulder to cry on and if you stop being their good ol’ buddy, they’ll see you as more neutral and less brotherly. Don’t do this in a rude way, just allow it to be a gradual change!
2. Dress to impress
Another key to making yourself look presentable is to dress well! I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase dress for the job you want and not the job you have? Well, that’s what you have to do.
You can’t be dressing like the lazy, sloppy, brotherly, homey friend. You have to dress like the sexy boyfriend that you want to be.
Try to limit your time around them to when you’re always looking your best. And this doesn’t have to mean a full suit (though that couldn’t hurt!). Make sure that you’re put together. Wear something you’d wear at a house party every time you’re around them. Dress nice, but not like you’re trying to get into a club at Vegas for free.
3. Shift attention to someone else, watch for jealousy
One way you can gauge your progress is by shifting your attention to someone else. This will show that you’re not going to sit around and wait for them (come on dude, you’re a rolling stone!). Show that you’re capable of moving on to other people in the meantime.
If they start acting possessive, then it means you’re one step closer to sex my friend!
4. Shoot your shot
Once you’ve shown that you’re not their bro but you’re their hot, mysterious, player acquaintance… you need to make your move!
You should ask them out for dinner or pull that famous “Let’s get out of here line”. Wait for a moment where you feel like there’s some serious sexual tension there. And then put yourself out on the line.
Don’t act like you’ve been pining over them for your entire life, just simply tell them that you think they look good that night. Tell them that you’re into them. Tell them you want to be more than friends.
5. Don’t act like a friend again if it doesn’t work out
One of the key things about rejection is to not let it phase you. While it might be easy to go back to being this person’s friend like you were before. But you shouldn’t. You could have another chance on the horizon… but you can’t return to being her bro! You have to stay her mysterious acquaintance. So do that! And while it may seem hopeless after rejection, all hope may not be lost!